Relaxer Edges Breaking Off? How to Get a Touch Up Without Losing Your Hairline

Chica, the fresh touch up is giving. Pero your edges go last, every single time.

Homegirls, let's talk about relaxer day.

You sat in that chair, you smelled that smell, you felt that tingle, and you walked out swinging. Two weeks later you are in the bathroom mirror pulling at your temples like, where did my edges go? The back is fine. The middle is fine. But the front looks thin, see through, and you keep finding short little pieces on your scarf.

Girl. That is not a coincidence. Your edges took the hardest hit on relaxer day, and nobody told you.

The good news? You do not have to give up your relaxer to keep your hairline. You just need a new game plan for your edges. Before, during and after the touch up. Let's go.

Why Relaxer Hits Your Edges the Hardest

Your edges are the finest, softest hair you have, and they process quickly. So when relaxer sits on your hairline for the same amount of time as the thick hair in the back, your edges can end up over processed. Over processed hair is weak hair. Weak hair snaps.

Essence put it plain in their relaxer dos and don'ts: do not start with the edges or nape. Those areas are delicate and process quickly, so the relaxer goes there last.

Now think about the last few times you got a touch up. Where did your stylist start? If the answer is "the front," we found your problem.

The other big one is overlap. That is when relaxer gets smoothed over hair that was already relaxed. The American Academy of Dermatology says touch ups should only go on newly grown hair, and to never apply relaxer to hair that has already been relaxed. On your edges, where the hair is short and the line between new growth and old is hard to see, overlap happens easy.

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Signs Relaxer Is Breaking Your Edges

Check your hairline in good light, with your hair pulled back. Look for:

• Short broken pieces at the front that never seem to get longer.
• Edges that feel mushy when wet and stiff or crunchy when dry.
• A see through hairline right after a touch up, thinner than the week before.
• Little scabs or sore spots along your hairline after relaxer day.
• Edges that look thinner every round, touch up after touch up.

If a few of those sound like you, your edges need a different plan at your next appointment. And if you see bald patches, burns that will not heal, or a hairline that keeps moving back, book a dermatologist. We care for edges. A doctor tells you what is going on with your scalp. Our guide on how to spot early traction alopecia can help you know what to look for.

Before Relaxer Day: Prep Your Hairline

Hands off your scalp. Essence says do not scratch, wash or work out three to four days before relaxer day, because it can irritate your scalp. That means no scratching your edges with a rat tail comb, no scrubbing, and no heavy sweat sessions with a tight headband right before.

Count your weeks. Essence says do not relax any sooner than eight weeks. The AAD says touch ups should only be done every two to three months. If your edges are puffing up at week five, that is a styling problem, not a relaxer problem. We will fix that below.

Show up with soft hair. The week before, keep your length moisturized so the hair that is already relaxed is not dry and brittle going in.

In the Chair: Your Relaxer Day Script

You are the one paying. Speak up. Here is what to say before the gloves go on.

Good sectioning is how a stylist keeps relaxer on new growth and off the hair that is already done.

"Can you do my edges last?" This is the big one. Essence says the edges and nape go last. Over on the Long Hair Care Forum, women have been swapping this tip for years. Many said their stylists work from the back out and leave the hairline for the end. A few said their edges are actually the hardest part of their head to straighten, so their stylist handles the front a little differently. Your hairline, your plan. Talk about it.

"New growth only, please." Ask your stylist to keep the relaxer on new growth and off the hair that was already relaxed. Essence also suggests coating the length of your hair with oil or conditioner to protect the previously relaxed hair.

"Please base my hairline." Ask your stylist to protect the skin along your hairline and around your ears before they start.

"Tell me when it is time to rinse." If it is burning, say so. Do not sit there trying to be tough so it gets "straighter." Your edges are not worth a few extra minutes of bone straight.

Nervous about speaking up? We got you. Read how to speak up at the salon without feeling awkward before your next appointment.

After the Touch Up: Keep Your Edges From Snapping

The relaxer is one day. What you do the next eight weeks is where edges are won or lost.

Wrap it every night. Wrap your hair, tie a satin scarf, and let your edges lay flat while you sleep. No rubbing on a cotton pillowcase.

Go easy on the heat. Fresh relaxer plus a flat iron on the front every morning is a lot of stress on fine hair. Our guide on heat damaged edges breaks down the low heat way to stay smooth.

Oil the hairline at night. Use your fingertips, not your nails, and massage a light oil along your hairline before you wrap. Skip this for the few days right before your next relaxer, so your scalp is calm.

Soft styles like pin curls keep you cute between touch ups without pulling on the front.

What to Do When New Growth Shows Up Early

Week five. Your new growth is fighting your relaxed ends and the front is puffing up. This is where a lot of edges get lost, because the temptation is to touch up early, or slick the front back super tight to hide it.

Do not do either one. Instead:

• Blend, do not fight. Roller sets, wrap sets and pin curls help your new growth and your relaxed hair look like one texture.
• Lay it soft. A small amount of product and a soft brush, then tie your scarf on for ten minutes. No scrubbing the hairline flat.
• Loosen the ponytail. A tight pony on stretched new growth pulls right at your edges.

Your Between Touch Ups Edge Routine

Here is the whole thing, homegirl. Save it.

Wash day: Gentle wash, condition, leave in on your length and hairline.

Every night: Light oil on the hairline with your fingertips, wrap, satin scarf.

Every morning: Take the scarf off, smooth the front with a soft brush and a small amount of product if you need it. No daily flat iron on the edges.

Every eight weeks or more: Touch up on new growth only, edges last, and say something if it burns.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do my edges break off after a relaxer?

Your edges are the finest hair on your head, so they process faster than the rest. When relaxer sits on them as long as the back, or gets smoothed over hair that was already relaxed, they can get over processed and snap. Ask your stylist to do your edges last and only on new growth.

Should my stylist relax my edges last?

Essence says not to start with the edges or nape and to apply relaxer to those areas last, since they are delicate and process quickly. Some women have edges that are harder to straighten, so talk with your stylist about what your hairline needs.

How often should I get a relaxer touch up?

The American Academy of Dermatology says touch ups should only be done every two to three months and only on newly grown hair. Essence says not to relax any sooner than eight weeks.

Can I scratch or wash my scalp before a relaxer?

Essence says not to scratch, wash or work out three to four days before relaxer day, because that can irritate your scalp. Let your hair rest and keep your nails off your hairline.

When should I see a doctor about my hairline?

If you have burns that do not heal, scabs, pain, bald patches, or a hairline that keeps moving back, book a dermatologist. Hair care can be gentle, but a doctor is the one who can tell you what is going on with your scalp.

Sources: Essence, Relaxer Dos and Don'ts · American Academy of Dermatology, Black Hair: Tips for Everyday Care · Long Hair Care Forum, Should Stylists Now Relax the Edges Last? · Photos: Junny Sema, DIATAZI Priscille and Xavier Messina via Pexels.

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